Here I am, sitting here a few weeks before we are going to find out if you are going to be a boy or a girl, about 5 months before we welcome you into the world, and I want to tell you a few things. I know, I know I should wait til I know what you're going to be, so I might be able to give you some advice of a more personal nature, but I have never been a girl so my specific knowledge might not be helpful in some cases, so I think it is better if I do this in the blind.
The first thing that I want you to know is that no matter who you are or what you do I will always love you, and I am pretty sure that your mom would say the same. No mater what you do in this world, no matter what good or bad decisions that you may make, I will always be in your corner. Sometimes I may put you in a timeout, sometimes I may ground you, you won't get everything that you want the exact minute you want it, and all of that will disappoint you, may even make you angry, but I want you to know that I am always on your side.
I also want to let you know that I believe in a God that loves you as well. I believe that this God sent Jesus, his child, to this world in order to show us how to live, love, and die, I know that since you are entering into this world I have a slightly better understanding of what God must have gone through in order to allow that to happen, and while I love God I am not sure I would ever be able to pull an Abraham [ask me about that when you are a teen], but I appreciate that God did it for me.
In addition I want you to know that I am sorry for any bad thing that you may inherit from me. I have asthma, which kind of sucks, it makes it difficult to breathe sometimes. I have a few allergies, but hopefully they will pass you by. My family does have a history of diabetes, but I pray that it never touches you, so far it hasn't touched me. Also, you may inherit my temper, which I inherited from my dad [if that is something you actually inherit, I'm not sure]. I want you to know, that while it is difficult to control that it shows that you have passion within you, and if you can harness it for good and for God it can be a tool.
I do realize that my decisions will effect you from the very beginning. One of those decisions is me following the call of God and entering ministry, which mean that you will be a PK, a pastor's kid. Now, I want you to know that there are a lot of stories out there of PKs that are screwed up, they rebel hard sometimes. The first thing I want you to know is that I will try my best not to come down to hard morally on you, I will attempt to allow you to make your own decisions when it comes to your faith so that you won't feel that it hinders you in this life, but instead that it allows you to be the best you that you can be. But, if you do end up walking down that path of rebellion, like most people do [including myself] I will reiterate what I said earlier, I will always love you and be in your corner, no matter what.
I want to end this letter with a list of advice that I wrote for your cousin Landon on his first birthday, its been almost 7 years since I wrote them, but they are as true today as they were then. Some of these I stole from other people, all of them have been said by others, and will be said again. I pray that they bring you some knowledge, comfort and hope.
1) You will love and be loved; you will hurt and be hurt
2) You impact the people that impact you; you change the
people who change you
3) You will be wrong more than you are right but you will
think you're right more than you think you're wrong, so will everybody else
4) You will have good days and bad days
5) Every bad thing will pass, so will every good one
6) God is love, you are never closer to God then when you
love, so love often
7) No grounding lasts forever
8) Every heartbreak is survivable, even your first
9) Good follows good, bad follows bad, choose your path
carefully
10) Do not fear the future, it will come even if you do
11) Do not fear indecisiveness, most decisions should not be
rushed
12) No one was ever hurt by being patient
13) When you can, work it out, when you must, walk away
14) Laughter cures most pains
15) Strive for your dreams, it is possible no one else will
16) Don't be afraid to disappoint those who love you, if
they do they still will after you have
17) Blood is thicker than water, but Love is thicker than
anything
18) When all else fails, pray, when all else succeeds, pray
19) Always hope for a brighter tomorrow, and work to make it
so
20) Don't wait to follow others, lead them where you need to
be
21) Don't be in a hurry to grow up, Don't be afraid to grow
old, Don't forget to grow
22) No one has all the answers, Don't forget to forgive
yourself
23) Don't give away what you may one day need, Don't hold on
to something you never will
24) Don't go to bed angry, afraid, or worried, you sleep
better when you aren't
25) In order to be open to being loved you must be opened to
being hurt
26) Those closest to you can hurt you the most, be close to
people anyway
27) Forgive those who deserve to be forgiven for their sake,
forgive everyone else for yours
28) Ask forgiveness when you are wrong
29) Do not be afraid to tell someone you love them
30) Tears do not make you weak, they show your strength
31) The grass is not always greener on the other side, but
check to make sure
32) Laugh too loud, when people look at you, laugh LOUDER
33) Do not be afraid to think out of the box, even when
people tell you not to
34) Ask questions, it is the only way to learn
35) Read more than you watch T.V., you will be better off
because of it
36) When in doubt ask advice, take it if it is good
37) Love music, it allows you to express yourself in so many
ways
38) You are never alone, unless you let yourself be
39) Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is
40) Wise men say wise things, but in the end, follow your
heart
Peace and Love,
Pastor K aka Dad
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