Psalm 55
According to the title of this Psalm it is a focus on a friend who betrays, then in verse 12 David gets to the point himself, he is not talking about an enemy but someone who was a friend. I would prefer to sit here and tell you that I have no idea what being betrayed by a friend is like, that it's never happened to me, but I can't, much like you probably couldn't.
There was that one time when...
Or that other time when they...
And perhaps the most painful one is the one that happened just a few months ago when...
And they were friends that I worshipped with and prayed with and studied with, friends that I told intimate details to and listened to them when they needed someone, but that entanglement didn't stop the betrayal, if anything it just exasperated the pain I felt. Like most people the first thing I asked was 'How could they do that to me?' I raged, first internally, then externally, than to others. I swore I'd never speak to them again. But then, after a time, I calmed down and asked myself a more important question, 'Was there anything that I did to cause this to happen?'
Sometimes there was nothing I could point to that caused my friends to react the way they did, but sometimes there was. I realized that sometimes I had acted in a "less than" type of way before they did, that I may have caused a feeling of betrayal in them way before they did in me. That is a place we don't really like to get to, realizing that we may be at fault for the damage done to us, but it is very important to ask that second question, for individuals, for families, for corporations, for governments.
+ Have you been betrayed by a friend? Were you able to rescue the friendship or did it end?
+ Were you able to ask both questions ['How could they?' and 'Did I cause it?']?
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